Although I am healing and have healed, I will be labeled and remembered as a man that got a divorced for the rest of my life. Now that I’ve put it out there and told y’all my “bitness” in Part 1 of my blog, let me slightly fast forward and get back on track. My honesty to Tiff was different for her. We got to know more about each other, we just really clicked and bonded as friends. She was dating, needed advice and I didn’t mind helping from a guy’s perspective. If I could help someone from having their time wasted, I felt obligated to do so. She was dating like 4 or 5 guys and they were all falling off one by one, probably because she was waiting on the right guy to be intimate with, not just giving herself to unworthy people. She had gotten down to ONE guy and I was really pulling for him. He fell off too because he wouldn’t be open and honest with her. I just couldn’t understand why these dudes were passing up on such an amazing woman. A few days pass and I had decided to go to Dallas to surprise my dad and stepmom, since I was going to Tyler, TX (only an hour away) to have a catch-up lunch with an old friend. I text Tiff and told her that I was going to take her on a date that evening and finally meet her in person. I told her to pick something that she wanted to do by 5 PM or I was making plans for us. She thought it was a joke, so I text her at 5:15 & told her that we were going to the movies. She asked if we could go to dinner instead so that we could talk (which is obviously hard to do in the movies). I agreed and we decided on seafood at Pappadeaux’s. I get there and it was crazy. The conversation was even more amazing in person and I didn’t want it to end. She suggested that we take the convo outside to the patio. I asked the staff and they said it was cool. We sat down and talked for even more hours. We eventually left and she was all I could think about.

We started talking daily. She constantly prayed for me and encouraged me. That bitterness that I had towards women and relationships started to go away. Finally, we agreed to just date each other and simply enjoy the idea of dating, since people don’t do that anymore. Months of just dating passed. She helped me get back solid in my walk with Christ, since I had backslid and hadn’t been consistently to church in YEARS (way back when the pastor tried to help my ex and I). I wanted to see how far Tiff and I could go. I had to take a chance and make her my girlfriend. It’s not often you meet someone who prays with and for you daily, who knows her purpose in life, and who is as loving and caring as she is. Although it was hard, I got out of my own way and let God’s will for my life be done.

Writer: Mr. Robinson
Editor: Mrs. Robinson